A professional Guide

Summary:
This beautifully illustrated and sensitively written storybook and accompanying professional guide have been created to help young children understand about domestic abuse and coercive control. Floss is a happy little puppy who loves going to Doggy Daycare and playing with her best friend, Houdini. The story explores how things change when her Mum’s new friend, Boss, comes into their lives. Floss’s story supports children who have experienced domestic abuse and trauma as they make sense of their feelings, teaching them to seek help and stay safe. The supporting guidebook helps adults to work through the story effectively, putting the professional in a position to have important conversations with children about what to do if something at home does not feel right. This set: Can be used to address the topic of domestic abuse and coercive control with individuals, small groups and whole classes, enabling dialogue around a sensitive issue Offers activities for supporting children, safety planning strategies and guidance for taking on a key adult role Can be used to support the PSHE curriculum, particularly around the topic of healthy relationships This set is a vital tool for teachers, social care staff, therapists and other professionals working to teach young children about domestic abuse and coercive control. It provides an important vehicle for talking to children about staying safe and their emotional wellbeing.

Authors: Catherine Lawler, Abigail Sterne. Illustrated by Nicky Armstrong
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« Lorsque ma fille revient de chez son père, elle ne veut rien me dire sur son séjour chez lui. Pourquoi? »
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Newsletter février 2024

Cette newsletter traite de:

1. Les enfants de la violence

2. Lectures recommandées

3. Delenda Carthago – Un mari violent = un bon père?

4. KidsToo

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The gift of Fear. Survival signals that protect us from violence

Summary:
Protect yourself by learning how to trust – and act on – your instincts with the No 1 bestselling guide to personal safety, from security expert Gavin de Becker. A carjacker lurking in a shopping centre car park. An abusive husband pounding on the door. A man taking the seat next to you on an empty carriage. These days, it seems that no one is safe from the spectre of violence. But according to Gavin de Becker, you can feel safer, act safer, be safer – if you learn how to listen to your sixth sense about danger.In this unprecedented guide, Gavin de Becker, the man Oprah Winfrey calls the US’s ‘leading expert on violent behaviour’ , shows you how to spot even subtle signs of danger – before it’s too late. Shattering the myth that most violent acts are unpredictable, de Becker, whose clients include top Hollywood stars and government agencies, offers specific ways to protect yourself and those you love from daily threats, including: how to act when approached by a stranger; when you should fear someone close to you; what to do if you are being stalked; how to uncover the source of anonymous threats or phone calls; the biggest mistake you can make with a threatening person; and more. With The Gift of Fear , you can learn to spot the danger signals others miss. It might just save your life.
Author:
Gavin de Becker is internationally regarded as a leading expert on the prediction and management of violence. In 1985, de Becker received a special award from the US Attorney General and the director of the FBI in recognition of his work in threat assessment. He is also the author of more than forty articles and white papers, co-author of CONFIDENTIAL REPORT TO MANAGEMENT: UNDERSTANDING AND PREVENTING WORKPLACE VIOLENCE and the contributing-author of STALKED.
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Newsletter décembre 2023

Cette 1ère newsletter traite de:

1. Les chiffres officiels de la violence domestique
1.1 Violence domestique grave
1.2 Enfants victimes de violence domestique grave
1.3 Infanticides, féminicides et homicides

2. Lectures recommandées

3. Delenda Carthago

4. KidsToo

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Un-heard: Lived Experience in a Hostile System

Introduction:
This APPG was set up as a forum to work with representatives to increase awareness of the issues in child-centric family courts relating to the concept of parental alienation. It is essential that the child’s voice is prioritised in relevant proceedings. Thus, the APPG is trying to address the issues that arise due to the weaponised use of ‘parental alienation’ allegations in family courts.

Source:
APPG: ALL-PARTY PARLIAMENTARY GROUP ON CHILD CENTRIC FAMILY COURT 2023

Read the report: https://www.kidstoo.ch/app/uploads/UnHeard_Lived-Experience-in-a-Hostile-System-1.pdf

Le Contrôle coercitif. Au cœur de la violence conjugale

Résumé:
Ce premier livre français sur le contrôle coercitif présente le concept qui pourrait révolutionner la vision de la violence conjugale et sa traduction juridique en France. Le contrôle coercitif, concept central d’une approche globale de la violence conjugale et intrafamiliale comme atteinte aux droits humains, désigne un répertoire de comportements oppressifs basés sur le privilège donné par le sexe. Il en est considéré dans plusieurs pays comme une meilleure définition juridique. Il révèle la violence conjugale comme forme de la violence sociale, loin de sa représentation courante comme forme houleuse de conflit conjugal/parental. Si toutes les formes de violence impliquent le pouvoir de contraindre autrui, comment les agresseurs familiaux attaquent-ils, avant et après la séparation, les droits, la liberté, la santé des victimes, en majorité femmes et enfants ? Pourquoi les effets du contrôle coercitif sont-ils durablement dévastateurs ? Comment appréhender ce précurseur majeur de la quasi-totalité des féminicides qui est aussi le contexte prévalent des violences envers les enfants ? Ce livre a un triple objectif : fournir les connaissances académiquement rigoureuses et socialement pertinentes pour décrypter ces comportements avant que les agresseurs n’utilisent la coercition et la violence pour contrôler les personnes victimes ; permettre la création d’une culture commune favorable au dialogue interdisciplinaire, interprofessionnel et sociétal pour mieux assurer la sécurité des personnes victimes et réduire l’impunité des agresseurs ; expliquer aux professionnels et aux personnes concernés les éléments-clés de cette approche, fondée par des données probantes issues de la recherche scientifique et prometteuse face aux difficultés de la justice pénale, civile, et de la protection de l’enfance, pour transformer les pratiques et les représentations de la violence intrafamiliale et pour garantir les droits humains des femmes et des enfants y compris dans les familles.
L’auteure:
Andreea Gruev-Vintila, maîtresse de conférences HDR en psychologie sociale à l’Université Paris-Nanterre, elle mène des recherches interdisciplinaires sur les processus psychosociaux, l’impact et la pénalisation des violences et du contrôle coercitif dans les sociétés contemporaines. Ses recherches ont conduit à l’introduction de formations sur te contrôle coercitif à l’Ecole Nationale de la Magistrature et à envisager l’incrimination du contrôle coercitif en France.
Source: www.payot.ch

Domestice Abuse, Homicide And Gender

Résumé:
Based on research with frontline professionals and domestic abuse and homicide victims! this book argues for a re-conceptualisation of the female victim to enhance safety management and encourage a deeper understanding of the emotional dynamics and social structures which perpetuate violence.
Sommaire:

Foreword 1. An Introduction 2. Status 3. Status: New Definition, New Thinking 4. The Problem of Domestic Homicide 5. Police and Paramedics: Policy and Practice 6. Interviews with Professionals 7. Interviews with Victims 8. Status: Families of Homicide Victims; Frank Mullane 9. Status and Strategy: Recommendations Appendix One: Domestic Abuse First Responder Toolkit…

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IN CONTROL. Dangerous Relationships and How They End in Murder

Résumé:
Every four days in the UK, a woman is killed by her partner or ex-partner – and in the past year, domestic abuse has become an epidemic. For thirty years, Jane Monckton Smith has been fighting to change this. A former police officer and internationally renowned professor of public protection, she has developed her ground-breaking research into an eight-stage homicide timeline, laying out identifiable stages in which coercive relationships can escalate to violence and murder.Drawing on disciplines including psychology, sociology and law, Monckton Smith talks to victims, their families and killers to piece together the hows and whys of abuse – while shining a searching light onto the society and media that allow it to thrive….
Source: www.payot.ch